Proverbs 19:18 Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying. 

Immediate vs. long-term consequences: A child may resent or cry at discipline, but the long-term benefit is wisdom and self-control. Failing to correct a child now risks future grief, frustration, and even ruin for both child and parent (29:15).

Discipline as an act of love: Loving parents act in the child’s best interest, even when it is difficult. As Proverbs 13:24 says, “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.” God Himself disciplines His children out of love (Heb. 12:6).

Biblical and practical examples: King David and Solomon: David disciplined Solomon early, which contributed to Solomon’s wisdom (1Kings 3). Elijah and young prophets: Early correction in spiritual matters shaped the integrity of God’s servants (1Kings 19). Teaching a child honesty, responsibility, and respect early prevents rebellion and destructive habits later. Consistent consequences for misbehaviour (age-appropriate) form character more effectively than permissive indulgence.

Discipline early: Correct children before harmful habits become entrenched. Discipline wisely, not harshly: Use methods that teach, guide, and restore, not humiliate or crush. Endure temporary discomfort: A child’s tears at correction are far less costly than lifelong suffering caused by unrestrained folly.

Trust in God’s design: God created correction as a path to growth, wisdom, and life (3:11-12).

Proverbs 19:18 Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying. 

This proverb emphasises the importance of early, intentional, and loving discipline in shaping a child’s character.

‘Chasten thy son while there is hope.’ There is a critical window in a child’s life when guidance and correction are most effective. Habits, attitudes, and moral understanding are still pliable. Discipline during this period lays a foundation for wisdom, self-control, and moral integrity. Without timely correction, folly and rebellion may become permanent.

“Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (22:6). In Hebrews 12:7-11, we see that God’s discipline is proof of His love, producing righteousness and peace.

‘Let not thy soul spare for his crying.’ Do not withhold necessary correction simply because it causes temporary pain or distress. The crying of a child is temporary; the consequences of uncorrected behaviour can be lifelong. This is not cruel punishment, but measured, loving correction aimed at the child’s good. It is a warning against “cruel kindness”, allowing a child to continue in harmful behaviour to avoid momentary discomfort.

A child should cry under loving correction now rather than for both parent and child to suffer the consequences of unrestrained folly later. Discipline is an act of love, shaping life and character for God’s glory and the child’s lasting good.

To be continued…