Proverbs 19:6 Many will intreat the favour of the prince: and every man is a friend to him that gives gifts. 

Scripture repeatedly cautions against placing trust in man’s favour or worldly wealth, which can be fleeting and deceptive (Pro. 23:5; Jer. 17:5). True friendship is not measured by gifts received, but by love, faithfulness, and sacrifice. Jesus Himself modelled this perfectly. He gave without expecting repayment and befriended those who had nothing to offer Him.

Consider this contrast: Worldly friendships are often transactional: “What can I get from this person?” Godly friendships are covenantal: “How can I bless this person, even at a cost to myself?”

This verse also subtly points to the fickle nature of the crowd. Today, people may praise the rich or powerful, but that affection can quickly turn cold when the benefits stop. That is why Proverbs 18:24 reminds us: “There is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother” – a reference that finds ultimate fulfilment in Christ, our faithful friend and unchanging companion.

People often seek the favour of rulers or the wealthy out of self-interest, not sincerity. Generosity may win many “friends,” but these relationships are frequently shallow or temporary. True friendship is tested by adversity, not abundance. Believers are called to pursue genuine, godly relationships rooted in love, not gain, reflecting the nature of Christ.

Proverbs 19:6 Many will intreat the favour of the prince: and every man is a friend to him that gives gifts. 

This proverb offers a realistic observation of human behaviour, particularly concerning social dynamics and the allure of wealth or power. It reveals how people are often motivated by self-interest in their relationships and interactions.

The phrase “Many will intreat the favour of the prince” refers to how those in power or of high status frequently receive special attention. People flock to them, seeking their goodwill, influence, or blessing, hoping to gain something in return, an opportunity, a position, or a material advantage. These entreaties are rarely rooted in genuine friendship or loyalty, but are often motivated by what the person hopes to gain.

The second part, “Every man is a friend to him that gives gifts,” further illustrates the theme: generosity attracts attention and apparent friendship, but often from those whose hearts are not truly committed. Many are eager to befriend the generous man, but their friendship may be shallow, lasting only as long as the benefits continue.

This proverb doesn’t condemn generosity or honour, but it warns us to discern the motives of those around us. Not everyone who shows affection or interest is a true friend. Likewise, it reminds us not to base our relationships on what we can gain, but rather on sincerity, mutual respect, and godly character.

To be continued…