Parents – Part 3

Four more commands to children: [1] Hearken unto your father. To hearken means to listen attentively, to receive instruction, to obey wise counsel, and to remain teachable. The father is not presented merely as a biological parent but as a God-appointed source of guidance and instruction. Throughout Proverbs, the repeated call to hear emphasises that wisdom begins with a teachable spirit. Many troubles in life can be avoided when children learn from the experience and godly counsel of their parents rather than insisting on learning every lesson through painful experience. [2] Do not despise your parents. To despise means to treat with contempt, to disregard, dishonour, neglect, or to view as unimportant. This command is especially significant because ageing often brings physical weakness, memory decline, dependence upon others, and limitations that were not present in younger years. The temptation is to dismiss the counsel of elderly parents or to view them as burdens rather than blessings. Scripture commands the opposite and expects children to honour ageing parents, care for them, respect them, and value the wisdom gained through years of experience. A person’s character is often revealed by how they treat elderly parents who can no longer repay their kindness.

Parents – Part 2

Twelve things scripture commands us not to despise: [1] An old mother (23:22). Age is not a reason for contempt but for honour and respect. [2] The chastening of the Lord (3:11; Job 5:17; Heb. 12:5). God’s correction is evidence of His love and should be received humbly. [3] A hungry thief (Pro. 6:30; Deut. 23:24-25). While theft remains wrong, Scripture recognises human need and calls for compassion. [4] The Word of God (13:13). Those who reject God’s Word ultimately reject the source of life and wisdom. [5] Neighbours (14:21). No person should be treated with contempt, especially those in need. [6] Parental instruction (15:32; 30:17). Those who reject godly correction often bring unnecessary hardship upon themselves. [7] Children and believers. Christ warned against despising the little ones whom God values greatly (Matt. 18:10). [8] Weak Christians (Rom. 14:3). Spiritual maturity should produce patience and love, not pride and criticism. [9] Prophecies (1Thess. 5:20). God’s messages should be tested by Scripture, but never treated with contempt. [10] Youth (1Tim. 4:12). Young people should not be dismissed simply because of age. God often uses them powerfully. [11] Masters (1Tim. 6:2). Believers are called to show respect toward those in authority over them. [12] Ministers (Tit. 2:15). Those who faithfully teach God’s Word deserve respect for their calling and service.

This verse teaches that wisdom is inseparably connected to humility. The wise person remains teachable, honours parents, values truth, and respects those whom God has placed in his life. The fool rejects instruction, neglects ageing parents, and treats truth lightly. The wise son understands that honouring his father, caring for his mother, and holding firmly to God’s truth are not merely social duties; they are acts of obedience to God Himself.

To be continued…

Parents – Part 1

This verse continues the appeal for children to honour, respect, and learn from their parents. The command reaches beyond childhood and applies throughout life. Even when a son or daughter reaches adulthood, the obligation to honour parents remains.

The father is to be heard because of the wisdom, experience, and instruction he has provided. The mother is not to be despised when she grows old, weak, dependent, or less able to contribute as she once did. God places great value on gratitude, honour, and respect toward parents throughout every stage of life.

In a culture that often values people according to their usefulness, this verse reminds us that parents deserve honour because of who they are and what they have invested, not merely because of what they can still do.

An elderly mother may move more slowly, repeat herself, become dependent, require care and patience, or no longer possess the strength she once had. Yet Scripture teaches that age should increase honour rather than diminish it. Parents spend years sacrificing, teaching, providing, protecting, and nurturing their children.

When their strength fades, children have the opportunity to demonstrate gratitude through love, patience, and respect. This reflects God’s own heart toward the weak and vulnerable.

To be continued…